Don't Pretend Love
You Assume Love when you take a second look at what your spouse or life partner does as if you are well-loved.
You Pretend Love when you act as if you're loved even though you don't believe it.
When you Assume Love, you give yourself the chance to receive more love by looking beyond your instantaneous, gut-level reactions to events. You pay attention to what you know to be true. You stop yourself from jumping to conclusions. You do this for you, so that you don't miss any love being offered to you.
There's a good chance you'll notice love where you didn't see it before and want to show your spouse more appreciation as a result. That's great! But it's not required, and it probably won't happen every time. When it doesn't, pretending it did is not the solution.
Comments
L-o-v-e your site! I've begun thinking about WHY i worry about whether or not i'm loved. I'm starting to think it's MY ISSUE and maybe nothing to do with him. Do you think there's a chance that i need to ASSUME love because i worry that i'm unloved because i don't believe there's a reason anyone should love me? I'd love to read more on that. And, by the way, I THINK YOU SHOULD BE DOING LECTURES - YOU'D BE A WONDERFUL SPEAKER. At first, i was hoping you'd write a book but then, somewhere between driving to senior citizen karate class and baking fifty brownies for Family Science night, i got a chance to read the Family e-mail and - BANG - it dawned on me - that woman Patty should be a lecturer, not a writer. It's much nicer to see someone in a jacket than on a jacket!
Posted by: Merc Urial | February 18, 2006 8:35 PM