A Wonderfully Creative Third Alternative
"You're cheating on me!"
"No, I'm not! Don't hit me! I'm not cheating on you!"
"You're leaving the house twice a day now. And staying out too long. How dare you? You're driving me to drink and to protect myself."
"You're an abuser! I'm going to my mother's house and filing abuse charges."
You'll never guess their Third Alternative to clear up their heated disagreement about what she was doing.
It's not easy to get clear of the details of a disagreement to identify a solution that pleases both of you. Sometimes it takes real creativity.