Changing Your Spouse
It's very difficult to change another person's behavior. And it is next to impossible when done through criticism instead of agreement.
If you look carefully, though, you may discover some very annoying things are done not to annoy you but to be with you. Or to love you the way he or she wants to be loved. Or to cope with stress that comes from earning money to share with you or doing things for you that you cannot do for yourself.
If you focus on the love, you are a lot more likely to change your spouse. We all love to love someone who notices how much we love them.