Too Many Expectations in Marriage - a Universal Problem
"Divorces are mainly caused by too many expectations from the spouse."
Shabana Azmi, actress, activist, and Member of the Indian Parliament's upper house (the Rajya Sabha), said this Monday at the opening of a premartial counseling center in India's capital.
Although Azmi spoke of Delhi's mostly arranged marriages, she could have been talking about marriages in the U.S., too.
We fear lowering our expectations. None of us wants to be taken advantage of. However, marriage succeeds best when we expect love and little more. Our laundry lists of how we ought to be loved just get in the way of being loved.