ArchiveAugust 2016

Reviving a Boring Marriage

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Sometimes, the only thing wrong with a near-dead, boring marriage is whatever’s wrong with your life. And divorce can’t fix that. Marriages need novelty: new things to talk about, new things to do together, new reasons to savor the best moments of our past together. Overwork, depression, an empty nest, or a new baby can all put us into lockstep mode. So much focus is required just to...

Checking Out Other Women, Porn, and Romantic Comedies

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I received a wonderful request in a comment from Marie yesterday on my 2012 post, Avoid Pretending to Feel Loved When You Do Not. Marie asked for “advice on how to manage your own insecurities, while granting your spouse liberty to engage in harmless pleasures, such as: appreciating individuals of the opposite sex and not judging occasional encounters with porn.” She provided more...

The Problem with Affairs

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Let me set aside for the moment the obvious problem, that you promised yourself and your spouse, your family and friends, and perhaps even God you’d stay faithful. This seems to come up a lot more after the fall than while standing on the edge of the cliff contemplating letting an affair happen. No, the problem with affairs is that their temptation is so one dimensional. In a marriage, your...

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I am a widow who got it right the second time. I have been sharing here since February 14, 2006 what I learned from that experience and from positive psychology, marriage research, and my training as a marriage educator.

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