"One of you will always be loving more."
Joshua Rogers yesterday shared some excellent advice from Lula Rawls, who has been married for 67 years.
He was seated next to this grandmother of the groom at a wedding rehearsal dinner five years ago and asked for her marriage advice. I love the depth of what she had to say.
"You've got to remember that one of you will always be loving more."
Just in case that didn't resonate right down to your toes, here's Joshua's take on it.
"Seven years into marriage, Lula's quiet response is still ringing in my ears. It crushes my sense of entitlement, the expectation that marriage owes me a low-grade sense of happiness most of the time. It challenges my internal policy of only extending love when it is extended, withholding love when it is withheld."
Thank you for that, Joshua. And thank you Lula for your wisdom.