Is it over? Is it worth repairing? Can things get better? Here is how to tell. Are you married to someone who keeps you afraid to step out of line? Do you fear getting hit, bullied, locked up, or torn down with words designed to hit your most vulnerable spots? Or are you aware your spouse has cheated on you repeatedly? If so, only your spouse can save this marriage, and it’s going to take a...
When you are trying to make sense of something upsetting that your husband or wife does, I always suggest you first Assume Love. In other words, try setting aside your fears about the possible reasons for what happened for a moment to see if there is any explanation for a good man or woman who loves you completely doing this same thing. But there is no need to even try on this notion if...
I loved this story on People Magazine’s website. Jeanette and Alexander Toczko met when they were both 8 years old, married 13 years later, and were buried together on their 75th anniversary last week. They were crazy about each other from the start, and they long hoped they would someday die in each other’s arms. They grew up in Connecticut, just outside New York City. They worked in...
Most of us go about this the wrong way, especially early in our marriages. Let’s say you want your husband to take the trash out before the pickup time, wash the dishes after you cook a meal, or spend more time teaching your kids baseball skills. Here’s what works best with most husbands. 1. Ask, Don’t Tell When you tell your husband what to do, you sound more like a mother than...
