Going Through Tough Times
Are you going through hard times? How do you know?
Perhaps your spouse lost a job. You two have less money. You have no way to predict when he or she will work again. Almost certainly, you would approach the job hunt differently. Is this tough times? Or is it exactly what you hoped for when the two of you were working long hours, the break that lets you spend more time together or change up the split of chores before you're both hard at work again?
Whether these are hard times or a blessing depends entirely on what you compare it to. And if you compare it to times with more income and more status, it will feel like hard times. Rather odd, since viewing it as hard times is one way to push yourself to harder times: life as a single parent or as two unhappy people who share a bedroom but not life. Maybe life without a job is not so bad after all.
Have you developed a life-threatening or chronic illness? Does this mean these are tough times? Or are they good times, when you really lean into the benefits of having a life partner and learn to receive as much love as you give? When you stop obsessing about things that really don't matter as much as life and love? When you rediscover how much you need all your friends and how they can free you to love your husband or wife more freely?
Every change can be experienced as positive or negative. It all depends on what you choose to compare it to.
And isn't this a powerful thought?