3 Mistakes Your Wife Makes (and Why)
Guys, this is about three mistakes women make that may be behind whatever your woman is doing to drive you nuts.
These are honest mistakes, not negligence or intentional abuse. I tell you about them because they might come in handy if you Assume Love and try to find a different, more loving explanation for her behavior than the first one that comes to mind when she upsets you.
Mistake Number 1. She makes you feel like an incompetent child instead of her man. To her, loving is about caring, nurturing, protecting, and cherishing, not so much about respect. It's a hormonal difference between us. Instead of getting angry, explain what you need. If you can do it in a caring, nurturing, protective way, so much the better.
Mistake Number 2. She almost never initiates sex. Men are billed as being perpetually interested in sex. If you think you worry about getting turned down, imagine how worried she is when you're not pursuing her. Tell her you would welcome it, even if you sometimes say no. And remember, she did not spend her teen years studying ways to get the opposite sex interested in sex like you probably did. Give her some ideas.
Mistake Number 3. She equates utterly unequal contributions and comes across as ungrateful for the big ones. Women, much more often than men, are multi-taskers. They have long lists of what needs doing and they get as many as possible done each day. When they feel exhausted by today's list, they more keenly notice the undone items on your list. Once you (or they) have checked off "go earn a living for 8 or 10 hours," it's just one check mark, rather than the 157 you experienced it as and the reason you're lucky enough to have household tasks. She's not ungrateful, just focused on the list. Thank her for keeping track of all that needs doing. Then tell her you're exhausted and will take care of whichever item she's concerned with tomorrow. Then invite her to do the same and relax with you, because overwhelmed women don't take cold shoulders well at all.