Which is Worse? Cheating or Abusing?
Is one worse than the other? Both happen when we don't care about our mate or when we are so overwhelmed with emotions we feel entitled to or unable to control our awful actions.
Surely, infidelity causes as much emotional pain as emotional abuse does. And because it can lead to deadly diseases or a fiercely angry lover or lover's mate, it runs the same risk of permanent or fatal injury to the person we promised to cherish until death.
Stopping either of them before we inflict this pain and risk requires that we deal with our resentments. Learn to Expect Love (and only love), to Assume Love when upset, and to Find Third Alternatives to your disagreements. You are a compassionate, loving person. Don't ever believe your excuses for becoming something else.