Want Commitment? Let Yourself Be Judged
Because I went to a university with a 15:1 male-to-female ratio and found myself a widow at age 34, I have a little experience with dating.
One big mistake people make while dating, assuming their goal is to find and marry a great guy or gal, is trying to duck being judged.
They do what they believe others want or expect, hoping to be selected as good enough to commit to. They fear rejection. All they manage to do is postpone rejection until after the wedding, when it hurts more and costs more.
If you seek a marriage partner, dating is the proper time to judge and be judged. Let yourself be seen and known and judged. Perfect the art of bouncing back from rejection, sure in the knowledge that while you may be able to convince someone to date you, you must find a spouse.
Commitment requires that you judge and let yourself be judged.