When You Want More from Your Partner
I love this in Steven Stosny's recent blog post:
"Your best chance of changing your partner's behavior is to change what he/she reacts to in you. Your partner is likely to respond in kind to your behavior, whether it is loving, compassionate, and supportive or resentful, demanding, and critical.
"But regardless of how your partner responds, you will feel more authentic and remain true to yourself if you behave like the partner you most want to be."