Expecting Too Little?
What you expect from your marriage has a lot to do with how much you will enjoy it.
Expect your personal mind-picture of the perfect marriage and find yourself frequently and sorely disappointed.
Expect "growth" from the person you actually married into the person you think your mate could become and find yourself in a non-stop battle.
Expect supportive words from a gift-giver, acts of service from a person who loves with their body, or gifts from a person who offers you their time instead and find yourself in a roller coaster relationship.
But expect nothing and find yourselves living disconnected, parallel lives.
What's the answer? Expect love, lots of it, and throw yourself fully into noticing and savoring every surprising, unscripted, not-your-usual-style bit of it. You will find yourself happily married year after year.