It is so easy to get caught up in all our must-do's and ought-to-do's, but these stresses make it harder to feel loved. And when we don't feel loved, loving a spouse or life partner can feel like work.
When your relationship feels like work, it's time to be imperfect and playful again. Set some time to let some responsibilities go. Cut out some of the stress. Hang up that "Gone fishin'" sign and get back to who you are when you're not struggling.
In other words, it's time for a vacation. Time off from your usual duties. Time off from trying to keep going when you're too tired or too resentful to keep going. Time to shake off the anger and frustrations that keep you from noticing how much you are loved. Time to create a whole bunch of micro-moments of positivity resonance with the person who loves you. And you'll need to shed the frustrations, do things that make you smile to make them.
My husband and I are headed for a Florida vacation next month, to a part of Florida we've never seen yet and some good times with wonderful people. I can't wait.
As a result, if your idea is a good time at the beach, especially if you are a fan of surfing and boardwalks and lots of free music, our usual vacation spot is yours for a discount price of $950, way less than the hotel it's in charges and less than I offer it to strangers for, because you're like family now.
I've owned this August 15-22 beachfront condo week on Virginia Beach since 1987, and I love the place. I've stayed there 23 of the years since then.
It's between 8th and 9th Streets, close to the 14th Street Pier and amusement park, the fishing, parasailing, and jet skiiing at Rudee's Inlet, and all the East Coast Surfing Championship events that week below 5th Street -- but just far enough away for a quieter beach and sleeping experience.
It's a 2-room suite with a bath in between. The bedroom is quiet, with a comfortable king-size bed and a TV. The other room has a balcony facing the ocean, a full-size refrigerator, everything you need to prepare and serve meals, a dishwasher, a sofa-bed, an arm chair and ottoman, a TV and DVD player, and a table and chairs for four. If you really must check your email, there's free wi-fi. Down the hall is a coin-operated laundry. On the first floor, there's a heated indoor pool, a hot tub, and a workout room.
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Whether it interests you or not, I would love to read comments about the types of vacations that help you shed stress and reconnect -- or about any vacation problems you and your spouse are dealing with. Thanks for reading this blog and for allowing me to use it this one every once in a long while.